I have been a little quiet on this blog site. It appears that somewhere in the past couple of months I fell in love and I have been a bit distracted. Ha! Who knew this could happen?! That being said I am continually reminded of maintaining some semblance of balance. Balance in my own life so I have more to offer my families and the children I see for therapy and for my personal life. Life happens as it does for all of us. We can feel out of sorts or not doing everything we typically do. Or, we may need to make changes. When this happens some places I get hung up on are “I will do that tomorrow” and I say “yes” to too many commitments. Thankfully, all of these areas get better with age and practice and awareness.
“I will do that tomorrow.” Oh yes. This list can get big for me. All of the sudden that is the only list I might have and I’m running on fumes and anxiety. Thankfully I recognize this quickly and regroup. Granted I work for myself and have a few extras to maintain but once again balance comes into play. That’s why I have an ongoing list that gets a few things checked off regularly and has priorities within the list. What is keeping you from sitting down and making a list? Did you by chance catch my guest post, Too much to do, too little time by Kara Olimene, licensed clinical social worker?
Saying yes to too many people can land me driving everywhere and wear me down. That is one of the reasons I signed up for Amazon Prime this past year. Ha! (Social Emotional: An SLP Perspective II.) As a business owner I need to build in paperwork and billing time. As an early intervention provider who travels to family’s homes I need to account for drive time. Someone once told me, “Tracy you are not saying no to the other person, you are saying yes to yourself.” As a human being I also need to build in fun time, hobbies, responsibilities, and all of those things that equal being an adult.
Don’t let your list turn into a perpetual “I will do it tomorrow”. What is stopping you from today? What’s on the list today? Whether it be for you or for your child. Does your therapist want you to take pictures to use in therapy? Do you want to decrease the number of bottles your child drinks daily but you have not tried the suggestions the therapist is providing yet? Implement use of chewy tubes daily? What about self-care and your needs (Special Needs Parents: The importance of Self Care).
Learning about myself and continually seeking information in my profession play an important part in my life. I am an INFJ. Ha! If you are asking what INFJ means take a gander at the Myers Briggs personality test. A friend of mine shared this link with me years ago and I took it again recently. I do not think it is the end-all-be-all to who I am but it is enlightening and has helped me as a therapist and as a person. I also think it is helpful when treating some of our kids and thinking about their personalities as well. The Introvert Advantage: How To Thrive In An Extrovert World was a great book and touched on parenting as an extrovert or introvert as well as your child’s personality. As Kristie Pretti-Frontczak said at a training I attended recently…” I am here to serve the children and the families.”
What is your personality type? What are your strengths? Loving, Kind, Intuitive, Intelligent, Funny, Easy going, Direct… Find out and use them!
As I get older I have been participating in my life more and more. (Have you seen this article regarding device usage and its impact on children?) I also get up earlier so a workout happens routinely in my life. The gal from one of my workout videos says, If you want to see change you are going to have to do something today that you did not do yesterday. I have also been working towards quitting working earlier in the evening. Why? Because I want to enjoy my relationship, my family and my friends and allow myself a little more balance. Perfect balance will never happen but having strategies in place and implementing them routinely will leave you feeling better about your day. And, it will help those around you. And of course, you have to put the “manual” away sometimes.
If you enjoyed this blog you may enjoy some of the following as well. By the way… I am looking for an SLP to write a guest post for this site. Any takers? And, thank you Diane Bahr and Lorna d’Entremont for giving me my first blog post opportunities. What a gift! Have a great week and thank you for joining me.